BIRTHDAY BASH BOTHER
As it is nearing DD’s 2nd Birthday i find myself reflecting on her 1st Birthday. I wonder if i will ever get over or let go of all the drama that surrounded it.
We don’t have a lot of friends or family locally so it was always going to be a small event. The decision was made to have an afternoon tea for DD followed by a BBQ dinner to celebrate my 40th that was about 2 weeks later.
We invited Mr Wonderful’s family – Dad and partner, Mum and partner and his sister and 2 nephews. The neighbors either side of us were invited along with a lady i worked with, a lady that worked in the complex where i used to live, 2 friends from before i was pregnant and a little friend of DD’s. We were also very lucky to have my mum and an old friend of mine and her daughter fly 1700kms to attend.
The Start Of The Drama
A week before and all 23 of the people invited had indicated that they would put in some kind of an appearance. It was on the Thursday, 2 days before the party that the first message came. It was Mr Wonderful’s mum saying she wasn’t coming because she would feel uncomfortable. His sister then messaged because she had to do cleaning. Finally it was his dad because of bad weather. Then on the day, none of my local friends turned up. Don’t get me wrong i am extremely grateful for the 10 people that did turn up. Everyone seemed to have an enjoyable time which is fantastic.
The Birthday Party
I know the party wasn’t about me but i found it very hard to get into the party mood. All the normal party stuff had to be done like putting food out, making sure everyone had drinks as it was a hot day, taking photos and of course trying to keep a 1 year old happy. Then comes nap time for DD so we quickly do the cake and off i go upstairs to breastfeed DD and get her to settle. Half an hour later i return to the party and everyone has already had cake and its been put back in the fridge so no cake for me. Then the same thing happened at tea time everyone ate while i was putting DD to bed and then when i came down the last of the guests left so i had to eat tea by myself.
I am not a person that has parties but i did want to have a day of celebrations for DD. A lot of effort went in to the party and trying to make it a great day. To have so many people not turn up it was disappointing to say the least. But to have none of Mr Wonderful’s family turn up was just heartbreaking. I know DD had a good time which is the main thing. But this day sure ended up being everything but a celebration for me, i know the day wasn’t about me but i never thought i would not get to enjoy any of it. I hate to say it but i wish i could forget it happened.
All the drama has left me very bitter and not ever wanting to have a party again. I am not this kind of person and i can not believe i have let it get to me and continue to let it get to me. Hopefully writing this will help me move on.
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